Find Help · Grief
Room for sorrow.
Space to remember.
Loss does not follow a neat timetable. This is a place to pause, lament and remember without pressure to find a silver lining.
Choose your starting point
What would help right now?
Begin with Jesus’ response to Mary’s sorrow in John 11. There is no need to find a lesson in your loss.
Scripture & a little space to reflect
Read the words.
Stay with a thought.
Start with John 11:33–36. The Scripture is here to read straight away; the reflections beneath it are optional.
John 11:33–36
World English Bible
Read in context: John 11:32–36 (opens in a new tab)33 When Jesus therefore saw her weeping, and the Jews weeping who came with her, he groaned in the spirit and was troubled,
34 and said, “Where have you laid him?”
They told him, “Lord, come and see.”35 Jesus wept.
36 The Jews therefore said, “See how much affection he had for him!”
Jesus meets Mary in her sorrow and weeps.
What stands out to you about Jesus being present in this sorrow?
Psalm 13:1–2
World English Bible
Read in context: Psalm 13 (opens in a new tab)1 How long, LORD?
Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?2 How long shall I take counsel in my soul,
having sorrow in my heart every day?
How long shall my enemy triumph over me?
An honest lament that makes room for difficult questions.
What difficult question would you like to bring honestly into prayer?
Scripture: World English Bible (public domain). Reflections and questions by Beacons.
From reading to real life
Room for grief.
One gentle step.
Name what you miss, make room for a memory, or ask for company. You can leave any of these for another day.
A prayer in the ache of lossWhat do you wish others understood?
Loss does not need a polished explanation. You may want to remember, to speak, or simply to have someone alongside you. Begin with what feels most present, without deciding how grief should look.
“What I wish someone understood is…”
You might name a person, a change, or an ordinary moment you miss. There is no need to turn it into a lesson.
Make room for a memory.
Make space for a memory, a few written words, or a conversation with someone who can simply be present.
“One memory I want to make room for is…”
A few written words, a photograph or a conversation can be a place to begin. You can also leave this for another day.
Ask someone to be present.
Choose someone who can be present without rushing you towards an explanation. You might want to share a memory, sit quietly, or ask for help with an ordinary task.
“Could we spend some time together this week? I’d value company without needing to put a positive spin on things.”
Find a message you can adapt in the support section below.
Real people · Personal experience
Start with a moment
that speaks to you.
Conversations connected to grief.
Start at a relevant moment below, or watch the full conversation.
From 7:18Rowan Welch
When he lost his father
Rowan speaks about losing his father as a teenager and finding it difficult to know what to do with the grief.
Before you watch
The full episode includes bereavement, depression and references to suicidal thoughts.
Music for reflection
A quieter moment.
Choose a track. The small player stays available as you explore.
Prayer
Instrumental · Denis Pavlov Music
Mary, Did You Know?
Piano · Clavier Music
Jesus the Greatest
Music · Jumadi Haryanto
Scroll sideways to explore the music. Playback starts only when you choose a track.
A prayer you can borrow · Beacons
Words in the ache of loss.
God, be near in the ache of loss. Give me room to grieve and people who will walk gently beside me. Amen.
Ask for prayerThe Prayer Wall is moderated, not an urgent-response service.
Support from people
You can ask
for support.
Reach out to someone you trust, or explore further support.
Tell someone you trust.
Hey, I’ve been finding the grief hard to carry and could use some company. Would you have time for a call or a walk this week? I might want to talk about what I’m missing, or just spend a little time together. You don’t need to make it better—being there would mean a lot.
Edit this before sending. Share only what you’re comfortable sharing.
Care that makes room for grief.
A grief counsellor, support group or GP can offer support alongside friends and pastoral care. If grief is disrupting everyday life or feels difficult to cope with, you can ask for help without waiting for a particular milestone.
Support does not require you to stop remembering or meet someone else’s timetable.
Australian support information. If you live elsewhere, seek a relevant local service.
Beacons offers Christian encouragement, not professional healthcare or an emergency service.
About the resources on this page
Scripture quotations are from the public-domain World English Bible. Reflections, questions and prayers are Beacons editorial content. Podcast guests share their own experiences; their stories are not treatment advice or a promise that your experience will be the same.
The support links above lead to the organisations providing that information or service. External links checked 3 October 2026.